Women are insecure about themselves

Having established herself in her profession after a lot of struggle, she said that after her marriage, she had to face the obstacles of her husband step by step. Unable to keep her husband's word, she had to quit her job.

'I never thought that an educated husband would control me like this, I would have got married if I didn't accept what he said. He is only a representative character. Still, Nepali women experience restrictive and controlling behavior from their husbands or intimate partners. It is mentioned in the study conducted by Nepal Demographic and Health Survey 2022 on domestic violence that 35 percent i.e. out of 100 women, 35 women suffer restraining and controlling behavior from their husbands or relatives and 27 percent experience physical, sexual or mental violence. The ugly picture of marital relationship or intimate relationship between couples that looks beautiful on the outside is not limited to this. The rate of violence experienced by women from their husbands or partners is also increasing. According to the Demographic and Health Survey, the rate has increased by three percent in the last five years.

In the 2016 Demographic and Health Survey, the rate of women experiencing violence from their husbands or partners in the last 12 months was 14 percent, while in the 2022 survey, this rate increased to 17 percent. According to the latest demographic and health survey, 23 percent of Nepalese women in the age group of 15 to 49 years experience physical violence and 8 percent experience sexual violence from the age of 15. 6 percent of women experience violence during pregnancy . 53 percent of women feel hurt when they are subjected to violence by their husbands or partners. Only 28 percent of women dare to ask for help against physical or sexual violence against them. Looking at the caste background of women who experience domestic physical violence, 14 percent of the Brahmin/Kshetri community and 42 percent of the Muslim community are the most . Province-wise, the lowest is 15 percent in Gandaki province and the highest is 37 percent in Madhesh province.

Journal published in 2019 about the relationship between husband violence and women's empowerment in Nepali society, women who witness violence between their parents during their childhood are afraid of their husbands' violence and marital control after marriage. According to the World Health Organization, when the couple is illiterate or less educated, alcoholism, gender inequality, because women are lagging behind in earning income, women are subjected to violence from their husbands/partners due to the mentality that women should be controlled (including marriage). It has been suggested that mutual respect in the relationship between couples should be promoted to give social acceptance and the new generation should be made aware of this .

Rape by husband and partner

Studies have shown that women are restrained, abused, abused and raped by their husbands and intimates who are considered to be their closest, pleasant companions. Police records show that an average of 7 women, girls and teenagers are raped every day in Nepali society. Most of the cases of rape happen between acquaintances and relatives. Let's look at heinous crimes like rape committed by husbands and intimates on women. From 075/76 to 079/80, there were 202 complaints of husband raping his wife in police offices across the country. During this period, there were 649 complaints of male friends raping female friends and 43 complaints of divorced husbands raping their wives.

Murder by husband

43-year-old Penduwa Chaudhary killed his wife by hitting her with a rod in Tulsipur Sub-Mahaganar Palika-4 of Dang on January 6. In the evening, a drunk Penduwa killed 42-year-old Lakshmi Chaudhary by hitting her on the head with a rod. He also hit a man and a woman who came to save Lakshmi with a rod and injured them. According to the area police office Tulsipur, the police have arrested the wife killer and started the process of investigation and action.

40-year-old wife Sheetali Sarki died on the spot when her husband hit her with a sharp weapon in Siddhakumakh rural municipality-3 of Salyan on 20th of November. 45-year-old Dammar Sarki killed his wife by hitting him with an ax and wood. During the arrest and investigation of Dammar by District Police Office Salyan, both the husband and wife gave a statement that the incident took place after they got into an argument after drinking alcohol. In the beginning, his wife was beaten up. After this, he was killed. It was revealed in the police investigation that they used to drink and fight. According to the spokesperson of the District Police Office, Police Inspector Bhawani Prasad Dhamala, Dammar, who was arrested on charges of murder, has been sent to prison for pre-trial detention. The mentioned incident portrays the cruel situation where the couples who have planned a marital journey with the dream of traveling together for the rest of their lives are ending their precious lives by brutal murder. According to Police Head Office Naxal, 460 women have lost their lives from their husbands in the last five years (from 075/76 to 079/80).

According to Bhim Dhakal, the spokesperson of Police Headquarters Naxal, such incidents happen due to negative decisions made by people on impulse due to family tension, Receipt, financial crisis, extramarital affairs, alcohol consumption. In the last five years, there were 1,168 cases of murder among family members, relatives, and relatives. It includes 37 cases of family and relative murders. Out of those total 1,168 murder cases, 39.38 percent (460 people) are killed by husbands and wives. During this period, the number of men who lost their lives due to the murder of their wives is 97. Dhakal, the spokesperson of Police Headquarters Naxal, said that due to modernization and abuse of social media, morals and intimacy within the family society are decreasing, and conflicts within the family are turning into murders. "People get tired by watching too much social media, they become abnormal, they become monotonous, they cannot 'filter' what to do/not do," Dhakal said, "After stress and problems are created, instead of taking positive steps to solve them, such unpleasant incidents are happening." '

psychosocial consultant Parvati Subedi says that when the level of tension between husband/wife or partner increases, it turns into violence . "Mental stress happens to both parties, after the relationship breaks down, they blame each other a lot," Subedi said, "Some men have extramarital affairs, change partners, most women are committed to love, and this spoils the relationship." Traditional values ​​of control also lead couples and partners to widen rifts rather than seek solutions. Subedi, a psychosocial consultant, says that after not moving towards a solution in time, 'frustration' and mistrust increase, the strained relationship turns into murder and violence.